Generosity in Relationship
Generosity, in its fullest form, thrives in relationship. This concept has shown up for me in some heartwarming ways over the past few weeks.
It started with a homily at my church, where the speaker shared his childhood experience with cystic fibrosis. He emphasized how generosity, when disconnected from relationship, falls short. This made me reflect: Do I give to organizations, causes, and individuals openly, but with a heart closed to relationship? I discussed this with my friend, Autumn, and she immediately resonated with the idea. She had been contemplating a similar notion and expressed her desire to support me as I pursued more of my own creative design, facilitation, and coaching work, rather than purely working as a subcontractor with limited creative freedom. She also wanted to support the zAmya Theater Project, the non-profit I founded 20 years ago. Her desire and generosity were humbling! She recognized the value both endeavors added to the community and wanted to uplift them through building relationships and connections.
Autumn proposed hosting a purposeful party centered on connection and generosity—a party where surface talk was not the norm, and where people could be heard, inspired, and generous, all while having a great time. Brilliant!
We designed an intentional party. It began with a “swarm” activity of introductions, where each person asked a provocative question of each other. This activity filled the room with laughter, contemplation, and immediate opportunities to build connections (yes, it was a forced activity, but it worked!) Another activity involved using art to provoke deeper personal understanding around the question, “How does this art piece represent what you’d like more or less of in your life right now?” Small groups shared, bonded, and supported each other over the sharing. The power of vulnerability was palpable.
Then, Autumn spoke about her desire to support me and zAmya, highlighting the impact she saw us making. She invited the guests to support me and donate to zAmya. I felt awkward but also seen. Being recognized for the value you bring is inspiring. It inspired me to continue to pursue my dreams, own my skills and talents, and be generous with not only others, but myself. Opening ourselves to vulnerability is a part of building real relationships. Sharing a part of yourself is an act of generosity.
Autumn was intentional with her generosity and desire for connection. She combined them to create a magical evening where women were truly seen by each other.
Where might you be intentional with your generosity and vulnerability in a way that builds connections and relationships?